Is a coach coachable?
August 16, 2006
Over at the Fast Company Michael Docherty is looking for a coach and he’s facing some challenges that are ringing bells for me because I’ve been thinking in the last few months that perhaps I need to work with a coach myself but I keep procrastinating – Is a coach coachable?
So it was with great apprehension that I’ve just undertaken my personal search for a ‘business coach’ to help me regain focus and take my own business to a higher level….Yet while I’ve faced a lot of challenges in my career (including some corporate business turnaround experience), this time has been different. I’ve personalized it, become so obsessed with it that I’ve become fearful of the inevitable failures along the way. I’ve let my perfectionism get the better of me and it’s slowed me down even more. So, that’s why I’m willing to give this business coaching thing a try. And besides, I’m the CEO, so if I’m not coachable, I still don’t have to fire myself (but maybe the coach will have a different opinion).
He then goes on to talk about the initial interviews he set up to find the right coach
First interview: a sympathetic ear, a clinical background and philosophy of purpose-driven life (vs. goal-driven life). All in all sounds like a good fit, reasonably coherent and practical. But $3600 for 3 months of weekly 45 minute phone calls?? Ouch.
Second interview: Here’s a walking example of ‘if you can’t do, coach’. Proud of the fact he’s getting coached right now, and he’s just back from a coaching conference. Ready to spew out all of the buzzwords and quick-fixes he just learned. Only $500/month, but no thanks.
Third interview: Scheduled a time, then moved it. Twice. Scolded me for by email for not confirming the final time (which I had). I re-sent my response. Sent me another note claiming to have found my original, but not acknowledging my re-sent note. Now hasn’t responded with the time. I haven’t heard the fees yet, but perhaps I can bartar for the help she needs in client management and time management. No thanks.
I know many people who have had a similar experience and many others who have had the same kind of experience when trying to find the right therapist. I think it becomes even more complicated if you are a therapist and a coach and you’re thinking of hiring someone to work with you. I know all the tricks, the jargon and have seen a lot of empty promises – I am not sure I’m coachable at all or if so I think I’d need a really special kind of coach – one that wouldn’t put up with my smart alecness 🙂 But seriously folks – are there coaches out there who are coachees? If so, how did you find the right coach for you:?